SEXUAL ABUSE

The talk on sexual abuse has lingered on for some time now and still little or nothing is being done about it.

This undesired sexual behavior has totally become worse than a vice in the sense that, almost every girl out there has been or will still be a victim. In Nigeria alone, records show that sexual abuse has become a daily thing with the perpetrators of this heinous act of suppressing, intimidating and even threatening their victims not to speak up.

The worst part is that, 80% of people who are sexually abused are kids who are either too scared to tell their experiences or kids who are serving in homes owned by these abusers. In situations like this, they assume that everything done to them by their master is the right thing. Even when they know its wrong, they dare not utter a word. Without mincing words, the society has raised a lot of sexual perverts who are stemmed from either spoilt kids or men who felt controlling their libido wasn’t necessary. Such people grow up to become threats to the society and more so, to the little innocent girl growing.

Sometime ago, the news of a 70 years old man raping (abusing) a girl of 8 years went viral, while other people totally condemned the granny.  Some couldn’t help, but throw shades at the girl's mother for neglecting the responsibility of knowing her daughters whereabouts at the given time. Yes, parents should have a fair share of the blame as well. Some kids are totally neglected and not cared for by their parents, who are either pursuing career or money; therefore parents should be on the lookout for their kids and know what happens to them. That neighbour, that uncle; takes that opportunity to do and undo.

Parents should as well be encouraged to have as many kids as they can afford to comfortably take care of. There is nothing nice at all in having 10 kids, when you can’t even feed one with the flimsy excuse of God gave them, God will take care of them. Later on, send them out to these pervert Uncles and Aunties who do

Whatever they wish to them, after all no one is there to speak for them. A lot is happening; one has to be really cautious with our girl kids. Research has shown that Boys are not left out in this. I read a story some time ago where a grown woman who was supposedly Sex starved; preyed on a little boy who lived in her neighbourhood ordering and urging him to do all manner of nasty things in exchange for a little token. What is our world turning into?

Sexual abuse happens every day, yet people speak and write about it on daily basis. Almost every lady has or still has sexual abuse experience as a kid. Some were just attempts and advances, while others were completely abused. The reason some of these victims failed to speak up was fear of being discriminated, condemned and talked about.

Sexual abuse carries with it a long lasting emotional and physical trauma regardless of age. Victims of sexual abuse often internalize their symptoms which often lead to depression, poor self-esteem, and difficulty trusting in relationships, sexual problems and higher risk of substance intake/abuse.

SAY NO TO SEXUAL ABUSE!

LEARN TO SAY NO.

LEARN TO SAY NO.

NO. It's just two letters but it packs a powerful punch, or at least we think it does because so many of us are afraid to say it. For some reason people particularly women are afraid to say NO. They feel the need to justify their responses. We feel the need to excuse. We feel the need to sugar coat it, soften it and not offend. NO is the opposite of YES and as often as we use yes we should also learn to use No when necessary as long as it guarantees our safety and makes us do the right thing. Most times we unknowingly encourage people struggling with drug addiction by giving them money to continue that lifestyle. When you see someone struggling with these problems no matter how it hurts Learn to say NO.

A young Lady is being wooed by a handsome and rich man who is utterly bereft of manners and respect for a lady...who doesn’t hesitate to hit a lady at the slightest provocation...say NO and mean it. Why settle for less when you can actually learn a trade or a skill and in no distant time you'll be your own boss.

Are you married or perhaps in a relationship. Have you resolved initially to stick to one partner at a time and there are these beautiful/handsome slay queens/kings all over the place...some even go as far as making advances...Say No and mean it.

1.   Learning to say NO doesn't make you lesser than you are infact it disciplines you. No one will do it for you, you are going to resolve to do it yourself with determination and self-discipline.

2.   SAY NO TO DRUGS: So many people are struggling with addiction that no matter how much they try. They still find their way back to these drugs...Say No and mean it like your life depends on it.

3.   SAY NO TO PORNOGRAPHY: Some people are curled up in the web of pornography addiction with constant struggle to break free. They can't help themselves...the two letter word should come to play here Say NO.

4.   SAY NO TO MASTURBATION: A lot of our brothers and sisters are entangled in this bad habit.. with the whole feeling of disgust these people swear not to resort to it but still find themselves in the acts...Say a determined NO and stick to it. It destroys lives.

5.   SAY NO TO PROSTITUTION: Sadly some of our young girls sleep around oftentimes with men old enough to be their fathers because of money that is not isn't enough to cater for all their needs. The funny thing is these girls crave to be better and lead responsible lives but do not know how to go about it. Say No today.

6.   SAY NO TO RAPE: What's the use waiting to pounce on unsuspecting victims (mostly women) to rape them and later wallow in regret. Most of our men both young and old are preying on innocent women and even kids like predators that when this urge comes it's often hard for them to fight. Say No today and resolve to stand your ground.

Above all SAY YES to exploring positive ideas, learning new skills that will better and not batter our conscience, reputation and most importantly our future. YES to getting busy while trying to overcome these addictions. YES to starting from somewhere no matter how small. YES to entrepreneurship. YES to being someone younger ones will gladly emulate. Stay focused and positive.

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REDUCE YOUR ALCOHOL INTAKE

Alcohol is highly addictive! The problem is once you become dependent, you may not be able to stop even if it's killing you! You will helplessly prefer drinking to living. It affects virtually all the organs of the body thereby increasing the risk of liver damage, kidney failures, diabetes, stroke, hypertension, cancers, impotence/infertility, abnormalities and birth defects (if a pregnant mother consumes it) etc.

According to a recent BBC report, over 3 million bottles of codeine are consumed every day in northern Nigeria alone and this is the main reason the Federal government recently banned any cough syrup that contains codeine.  In another report, The Nigerian Senate estimates that as many as three million bottles of codeine syrup are drunk every single day in just two states, Kano and Jigawa.

With the high rate of mental illness across Nigeria due to alcohol and drug abuse,  I just wonder what Nigeria will look like in 10 years time. And the sad thing is, once someone develops a mental problem in Nigeria his or her family will blame witches, enemies or village people. Its sad and pathetic.

Did you also know that alcohol and drug abuse affects the mind, emotion and could also lead to difficulty in relationship with others, domestic violence, broken homes, challenges in workplace, academic problems, poor religious commitments, sleep problems, sex issues, accidents, depression, outburst of anger etc the list is just endless.

Excessive Alcohol intake has made beer parlor business a very lucrative one. I know of some people who just don't feel the same if they go a day without taking alcohol. Infact a man once said and I quote ''How do i survive without alcohol? Really? Also take a look at another man's budget for the month... He earns 100k monthly and his budget goes thus...Feeding allowance 20k...The children's school fees 20k and the rest goes to alcohol. To the disgust of their loved ones, they tend to be unapologetic as they helplessly prefer drinking to living. Alcoholism drains a man financially emotionally and otherwise.

Those in the rural areas are not left out in this addiction. Growing up in the village, youths do all kinds of menial jobs in the daytime ranging from cutting of palm fruits, bricklayer jobs, farming and so on just to squander the money in the evening at a local beer parlour.

In some villages also there are places where people gather to drink this locally made dry gin (ogogoro). People troop in to places like this when they can not afford beer to satisfy this alcohol urge...Men Women young men and young women alike.

An aged woman I once knew who took to alcohol (the ogogoro type) as a lifestyle. She would frequent these areas as soon as the cock crows, with or without money. Her Children did all in their power to stop her but every effort proved abortive. She continued pouring this chemical-like substance into her body even without proper food until her poor body couldn't take it anymore as the alcohol completely dried up all the blood in her body, she was as white as paper and she gave up.

Loosening the grip of alcohol on your life and health may be a long gradual process with failures that may make you feel powerless and weak-willed, but, never give up. Admit that you have a problem with alcohol and that you need help. List the benefits of stopping, and make a commitment to stop drinking. Avoid and get rid of every source of temptations. Find new ways of thinking and living.

Prepare for alcohol urges, cravings and triggers. If you must drink, please drink water! if it must be in a bottle please drink bottled water.

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THE PARABLE OF THE PENCIL

THE PARABLE OF THE PENCIL

As Nigeria face numerous challenges on many fronts these days, one must go out today to be part of her solutions and not part of her problems. It is only by contributing to any and every community you find yourself that you can be an asset, don't be a liability or make a waste of your life, time, energy or talents. There is a moral lesson in this parable of the pencil. The pencil maker took the pencil aside, just before putting it into the box. "There are five things you need to know" he told the pencil, "Before I send you to be held in someone's hand"

One: "You'll be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand".
Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil".

Three: "You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make".
Four: "The most important part of you will always be what's on the inside". And
Five: " On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter the condition, you must continue to write".

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart. Now see yourselves as the pencil. Always remember them and never forget and you will become the best person you can be.

One "You will be able to do many great things, only if you allow yourself to be held in God's hand, and allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess".

Two "You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time by going through various problems in life, but you need it to become a stronger person".
Three "You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make".

Four "The most important part of you will always be what's on the inside". And
Five "On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No matter the situation, you must continue to do your duties".
  
Allow this parable of the pencil to encourage you to know that you are a special person and only you can fulfill the purpose for which you were born to accomplish. Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is insignificant and cannot make a change.

REMEMBER...... Life is an echo, it gives you back everything you say or do. Our life is simply a reflection of our actions. If you want more love in this world, create more love in your heart. If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence. This relationship applies to everything in all aspects of life; life will give you back everything you have given to it. Your life is not a coincidence.....,it's a reflection of you.  

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WORK EXPERIENCE WAHALA IN OUR LABOUR MARKET

As the topic suggests, one will simply infer that the question of unemployment particularly among Nigerian graduates suffer a total neglect. It will not be out of place to regard the situation as a misplaced governmental task that is being compounded by ''WORK EXPERIENCE SYNDROME'' practiced in the Nigerian labor market. The syndrome of requisite ''work experience'' for employment in the labour market has become a pattern. Most employers of labour in both public and private sectors put up job advertisements insisting on requisite qualification and experience often longer than the entire duration of study a graduate must have had. Every day we come across job advertisements which requires that ONLY candidates with five, ten years 'work experience' or more should apply.

Puzzling!!! This means that the fresh graduate seeking for job is already disqualified by that singular requirement even though she or he may have the academic qualification and capacity to deliver on the job even without prior work experience. This syndrome is mostly the reason for the ever growing  trend of unemployment in that , it even takes established worker (those with the work experience) time to change jobs let alone a fresh graduate who is yearning for a job to make ends meet and make his or her parents proud and even to contribute his or her quota to the societal development.

Yes we know that experience is the best teacher but employment consideration in Naija is just meting out injustice on a good number of Nigerian graduates if we count solely on this work experience thingy. It will make more sense if both the public and private sectors adopt the practice in most developed countries where employers employ young and fresh graduates and take them through refresher and induction courses to prepare them to suitably fit the operations of their new job. This approach will be more meaningful after all they graduated to be versatile in all human endeavors.

In Nigeria, ''only those who work on the altar eat on the altar, you should not expect to reap where you did not sow'' this is the philosophy backing this syndrome. Yes in other words if you do not have an Oga at the top you cannot benefit from existing employment opportunities...the demand for bribe becomes the norm. You haven't heard it all, some employers in certain establishments sexually exploit female job-seekers before granting them employment.

The unwilling ones are despised and denied such jobs. An individual (a civil servant) who ought to retire at a certain age will just go and falsify (reduce) his or her age (football age) thereby aggravating the unemployment trend so far as the civil servant does not die, he or she remains there till eternity to the detriment of a young and fresh graduate who find it extremely difficult to secure a job.

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THIS VILLAGE PEOPLE MADNESS MUST STOP

This is a very important article, you have to read the entire post to understand me clearly.

 

For God's sake, the reason we have millions of jobless graduates in Nigeria is because of bad leadership, it is NEVER because of witches or village people. I am making this post because the number of MORONS we have in Nigeria is alarming. I called a close friend today, he said he cannot talk on the phone for too long because he was going to his church for an assignment. I asked what the assignment was all about; he said their pastor told them to come to church with stones and canes to flog their enemies, lol as I write now he is prolly in his church flogging and stoning the devil, witches and village people. Just like most Nigerians, my guy believes that witches and village people are the main cause of his joblessness? Can you imagine? How can you get a job or walk out of poverty by flogging the ground? Who did this to us?

I strongly believe that if Nigeria is developed like Europe or America no witch or village people will stop you from getting jobs or getting married, I am ashamed to admit that most Nigerians are ignorant with low IQ which is why they are easily deceived into believing that every problem they face is spiritual.

Most of the village people you guys accuse wrongly don't even know that you are existing, and if they have such spiritual powers to bewitch you they will rather use such powers to improve their own life. I have traveled far and wide and know for a certainty that it is only in poverty-stricken African countries with low IQ that most people blame witches and village people for sickness, poverty, joblessness, childlessness etc.

I am yet to see a Nigerian that admitted that he or she has fucked up, most people will look for excuses or blame witches/village people for their own mistake.

                         Let me give just 3 examples:1. During Christmas period many guys buy new cars which to me is not a problem. The problem is that many of them will go to beer parlours, drinking spots and nite clubs, get drunk, crash their cars as a result of overspeeding etc. In most cases they sustaiun serious injuries and the unlucky ones might die, then their families will start blaming haters, witches or village people.
2. Look at the way our youths are destroying their liver and kidneys with tramadol, codine and many dangerous substances. Tomorrow their families are going to blame witches and enemies for kidneny failure.
3. Many girls are destroying their womb with postinor2 and may other dangerous pills, tomorrow they are going to blame witches, enemies or village people for their childlessness. I have seen some instances where some girls claim that their mother inlaw is a witch that is why they could not bear children. I know there are some men and women that naturally have issues bearing children, but I am talking about the vast majority that destroys their womb and blame witches and enemies.

Guys pls hear this, the reason our brothers and sisters are not getting married on time is because of the clueless people we put in government. Every single guy I know wants to settle down but they need a stable job before getting married. No reasonable man wants to marry a woman he knows he cannot take good care of. There are no jobs, that's why people are not getting married on time, so stop blaming non existent witches and village people for any problem you are facing.

We have all the mineral resources on earth yet our leaders cant achieve anything with it, no reliable power supply, no good roads, not even a single worldclass hospital in Nigeria. I don't believe that witches fly at night, its senseless statement. The witches I know are the people that are looting our resources. The reason we have bad roads and lots of road accidents is never because of any witch or village people, guys wake up and stop channeling your energy on the wrong people.

From year to year we pray Holy Ghost to fire this witch or fire that enemy, those prayers don't work because you guys are firing the wrong people. So instead of running from church to church firing prayers against enemies and witches, kindly channel that energy to the right channel which is the government. The government is the REAL enemy, the bad leaders are the real witches, stop blaming village people for every problem you face. Those village people you are accusing are facing the same battles just like you, most of them are innocent, most of them dont know you exist, most of them are also looking for ways to improve their life.

Sometimes people attack me online claiming that maybe I come from a good village that's why I talk like this. The simple truth is that all our villages are the same, there is not any village you won't find good and bad people. Some people will love you, some people will hate you for no reason, it's everywhere, even in developed countries. As far as most people love you it doesn't matter if one or two bitter souls dislike you. As long as we are alive there will be good times and bad times. I fight many battles just like anyone of you, But the last thing I will do is to blame witches or village people bc I know they have no power over my life. I got to where I am today because I don't believe in stupid things; if you keep believing in witcraft and juju you are just limiting yourself.

 

Finally, an election is coming up next year, most of you will collect 10,000 Naira bribe to vote in the wrong candidates and later you still expect the same man that "BOUGHT" your votes to provide you with basic amenities? If this is not the height of ignorance then tell me what it is. After selling your vote you start blaming witches and village people for your joblessness. Make una think am na. So in conclusion, we are not poor or jobless because of witches or village people. We are poor and jobless because the government has failed us, this is my own take. But if you want to continue believing in stupid things that's your own problem.

Finally, I believe that you will find my article about witchcraft very interesting, please read the detailed article here: https://iykbethanygistville.com/2017/11/23/is-witchcraft-real-or-fake/

 

Top 15 Small Profitable Businesses That Can Give You Huge Daily Profits In Nigeria/Ghana/Africa

These Are The Top 15 Small Businesses You Can Make Huge Profits From Daily In Nigeria. This can also work in Ghana and most sub-Saharan African countries.

Many of us do not know that there are many good profitable businesses you can start with little capital. So instead of waiting for a job, its time for you to create one.

There Are some businesses that you can Start With as little as N20,000, N50,000, N100,000, N300,000 etc, And Make Huge Profit From It.

Kindly Check Below For Some Of The Businesses You Can Start With Little Capital.

1. Bedsheet/Beddings Production: If you are in the Eastern part of Nigeria kindly pay a visit to Aba, Onitsha but if you are in Lagos State kindly go to Lagos Island or Oshodi where they sell bulk materials, pick good designs and I tell you the guys who will sew it for you are just within the same Market. You can start with less than 100k and diligently grow your money.

2. Shirt Production: A sweet side hustle. There are good tailors mostly in Aba and Lagos Island or better still you can learn the skill yourself, it will save you all the heartbreaks imaginable. Ariaria International Market Aba and Taiwo Street in Lagos Island is where you should be. Materials ranging from 700 naira– 1,000 per yard, sew for 1500/2k, Sell for 5-7k.
The best way to market these shirts is through word of mouth through family members, friends, colleagues etc. You can also market your them on your facebook wall, instagram, twitter etc or contact me I can market them for you on my blog free of charge.

3. Boxers: Schedule a trip to Aba Market, The cost of production of boxers, you can get one for as low as N300, all you need is to package it in 3s, we buy 3s pack boxers for 1500-2500 sell yours for 1200 and gradually grow. The best way to market your goods or products is through word of mouth through family members, friends, colleagues etc. You can also market your products on your facebook account, instagram, twitter etc or contact me I can market them for you on my blog at no cost.

4. E-Payments and POS Business: You can easily get a POS machine from your Bank, and activate online banking: If you live in a place where banks aren’t much you can handle e-payments for people and make your small change. Most people pay N200 to withdraw 10k. ATM queue can be crazy sometimes.

5. Mobile and Electronic Accessories: Mobile and electronic Accessories such as Pouches, Chargers, USB cables, HDMI cables, earphones, power banks and more, can be sourced on Alibaba, Ali Express, Deal Extreme, etc. The more you buy the lower the price. And they are light so shipping won’t be a burden. Sell them on Jumia and co or contact me for free advertisement on my blog.

6. Popcorn: We all know this guy we buy every time. Bags of corn – Mile 12 Branded Nylon Sugar, Salt & Butter. The beauty of this is when properly made, its aroma will attract its customers. Manual sealing machine -7/9k Popcorn Machine is 65k on Jumia. Popcorn can be served anywhere. It costs less than N40 to make a pack of popcorn

7. Branding – Sales and Customizing: Football team supporters always want to show how much they’re rooting for a team.

8. Snail Farming: Snail farming in Nigeria is even more lucrative due to its relatively cheap cost of startup and If you market your products well, your business will thrive. This is a business you can start from your backyard. Bear in mind, snails take almost a year to mature so Patience is Key in this business!

9. Fairly Used Goods: Fairly used goods such as ladies and gents Jeans, Tops, t-shirts, shoes etc. They can be sourced at Onitsha main market, Aba International Market, Badagry in Lagos or even Cotonou in Benin Republic. 100,000 Naira can get you a bale but you can select and mix them. Wash then and pack neatly. Marketing is all it takes, you’ll sell and see your money multiply. BUT NEVER SELL ON CREDIT BECAUSE YOU WILL LOOSE MANY FRIENDS DUE TO BAD DEBT. MOST WILL BUY ON CREDIT WITH SWEET MOUTH BUT WHEN ITS TIME TO PAY BACK THEY START LOOKING FOR EXCUSES. I did this business before I started importing from Vietnam/Asia so I know how so called friends can frustrated someone.

10. Cleaning Services: Some people find it hard to clean their houses or apartments ‘cos they’re busy with work from Monday to Saturday they have engagement and on Sunday all they wanna do is go to church and rest. Your cleaning tools won’t cost you up to 30k and you can clean 6 apartments every weekend.

11. Home Cooking and Delivery: You can cook a variety of meals well and apply customer service, People will pay good money for your services, You can run this from home. There are 2 people I patronize in Port harcourt when I am too busy/lasy to cook. If you cook good meals in Port Harcourt kindly contact me for free advert placement on my social medica accounts, I like to help people grow.

12. Digital Marketing: The success of any business is in its ability to effectively reach its teeming customers and this is achieved by effective marketing: Get a Used Laptop and Smartphone, temporarily, your smartphone can double as your hotspot Persistence and Passion is Key.

13. Cakes and Confectionery: This is one business that always comes to play, people celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, parties etc and bakers are always consulted. If you are in PHC and you are looking for cakes, cookies, pastries etc for any occassion the best person to contact is Mimi Rowland, check her on instagram @mimi_rowland. Shes under 23 years old and a student of Uniport, started this cake business in her small bedroom apartment, within 2 years she now has an office and a small car for home deliveries within PHC and her company is now legaly registered. Shes a real Boss Lady. She was introduced by a friend, tried her products and it was perfect, since then I have introduced her to many other people and thats how businesses grow. So whatever business you choose to do make sure you have passion for it and make sure you are good at it. If your cake is not good if you like fast and pray from now till 20 years time we wont come back.

14. Aso-Oke Beading and Stoning: Aso-Oke Beading and Stoning is in vogue now, and this is another sweet business one can start with 100k. You just have to learn how to bead and unlock your creative mind. You MUST be creative before you decide to venture into this.

15. Bead Making: I’m not sure there’s really much to say here. All you need is training, passion, creativity, unique designs and styles, then adequate marketing. You absolutely don’t need 100k to start this. I can help market your beads online if they are of good designs and quality.